When Goals Become Expectations it’s Time to Explore Possibilities

You are probably unaware that your mind is filled with expectations that control much of what you do. For some it’s unlikely that they know how their expectations evolved. It usually starts with a desire, which becomes a goal, then an assumption and finally an expectation. These expectations can create pressure, limit your imagination and blind you to possibilities.

You may have developed a rigid view of how your career is suppose to unfold of you may have a list of what you will need to be successful. The “success list” may not have been proven to be realistic and some of the expectations that have been met may have not brought you joy. You may have expectations on how coworkers are supposed to treat you or how being a top performer is suppose to feel like.

You may have high, low or even negative expectations about what is doable in your career. These expectations can be what we expect of ourselves, what others expect of us or what we expect of them. Unrealistic high expectations can bring disappointments and negative expectations can lead to unwillingness to try something new.

There are large and small expectations that we create. For example, you may have a small expectation that your phone’s battery will last long enough for a quick call and get impatient when it starts to shut down.

When goals harden into expectation we lose the satisfaction of accomplishing them. Becoming aware that expectations are steering your life and career will allow you the opportunity to discover where they came from. Hidden expectations can become powerful and can lead you to make poor decisions and distort your view of life.

Possibilities are in the present moment, unlike expectations which are future oriented. By being open to exploring possibilities, you can understand that what you think you want may change with time. There is also a strong chance that there is an outcome that you have not considered.

There is freedom to respond to life rather than react when life goes other that you expected.

© 2009 Rosemary Smyth & Associates